Review: “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hook-Ups, Love, Porn, Consent and Navigating the New Masculinity” by Peggy Orenstein
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Review: “Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hook-Ups, Love, Porn, Consent and Navigating the New Masculinity” by Peggy Orenstein

In “Boys & Sex”, Peggy Orenstein presents an honest, raw, and oftentimes heartbreaking exploration of how modern sex and relationship culture affects boys and young men. If you are a man looking to build better relationships, then this book is the step you need to take to better understand yourself. 

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What is Compersion?

What is Compersion?

If there is one word you will find yourself seeing a lot when you start your journey into polyamory, it will be the word "compersion". But what exactly is compersion, and why is it such a big part of people's discussions about ethical non-monogamy? Let’s take a closer look at it, its relationship with jealousy, and how it might be the key to healthier relationships. 

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Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley

Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley

Between this book and her previous book, polysecure, I have become a big fan of Jessica Fern's work. And of the two, in my opinion, polywise is the superior book, offering easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.

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Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent

Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent

If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.

They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.

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