Polyamory Resources

The first book I recommend to anyone looking to explore ethical non-monogamy, because it focuses on the idea that you build your relationship around what works for you.

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“Opening Up” explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships -- from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management.

While not focusing on polyamory, this books should be read by anyone looking to create strong and lasting relationships.

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In “Mating in Captivity”, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples. Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them.

This can be a tough read if you’re not familiar with psychology, but once you get into it it’s incredibly useful in learning about emotional connections.

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Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern extends attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

A collection of easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.

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Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that non-monogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.

My essential guide to everything you need to know to begin your journey learning more about polyamory.

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As the modern world slowly moves away from the idea of cultural uniformity, we find ourselves facing new ideas. In a world where individualism is embraced rather than stigmatised, we find ourselves facing concepts and ideas that are new to us.

“A Basic Guide To Ethical Non-Monogamy” provides a breakdown of all the essential information you need to begin learning about all forms of ethical non-monogamy.

While the work on Franklin Veaux has been revealed to be problematic, there is still a lot to be gained from this book.

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Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now the new book “More Than Two” can help you find your own way. With completely new material and a fresh approach, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert wrote More Than Two to expand on and update the themes and ideas in the wildly popular polyamory website morethantwo.com.

Bisexuality and polyamory are not inherently linked. But once you start to look at it, there is about about relationships in general we’re not seeing.

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From the invention of heterosexuality to the history of the Kinsey scale, as well as asylum seekers trying to defend their bisexuality in a court of law, there is so much more to explore than most have ever realized. Drawing on her own original research—and her own experiences—this is a personal and scientific manifesto; it’s an exploration of the complexities of the human sexual experience and a declaration of love and respect for the nonconformists among us.

While ostensively about writing, this book perfectly explains the nature of how we interpret the world, and how this impacts our relationships.

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Stories mould who we are, from our character to our cultural identity. They drive us to act out our dreams and ambitions, and shape our politics and beliefs. We use them to construct our relationships, to keep order in our law courts, to interpret events in our newspapers and social media. Storytelling is an essential part of what makes us human.

Dissatisfied in her relationship and hung-up on her ex-friend, Rosie Wilby goes on a journey to work out exactly why she can’t find happiness in a relationship.

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This is a rather misleading title. It’s not truly about monogamy or non-monogamy. Instead, it’s the story of someone who decided to actively break down their relationship with relationships, look at the options available, and then work out exactly what she needed. A must for anyone trying to grapple with their own concept of what a relationship actually is.

A discussion show where experienced ethically non-monogamists from all over the ENM spectrum take questions about anything and everything related to ENM, sex, and relationships in general.

A show about non-monogamy and the many ways it can look from Genevieve King. I Could Never... is the podcast that reminds us: just because you’ve never done something before, doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

Polyamory Uncensored is a podcast where we interview a new poly person each episode and try to answer the 5 basic tenets of journalism: who, what, when, where, and why as it pertains to the life of us poly folks.

The mission of the Practicing Polyamory Podcast is to provide a platform for all of the real life, flawed humans that practice polyamory so that we might all learn from one another and grow as a community. This is a safe space where people admit their shortcomings and failures, celebrate wins, and talk about the hard lessons learned along each individual’s journey through polyam.

Multiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you.

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. So....where should we begin?

Pink Therapy offers a directory of qualified LGBTQIA+ friendly therapists and counsellors providing trusted, non-judgmental services for people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, asexual, intersex and anyone who identifies as gender, sex or relationship diverse.

Coaching to provides a collaborative, confidential and non-judgmental space for couples and individuals, where we will focus on your thoughts, feelings, and challenges.

Friendly guidance from someone who can relate to what you’re going through? With over 9 years of experience living and loving as a non-monogamous, kinky, queer human, I’m here to hold space for you and help you to navigate this terrain.

Book a confidential 30min or 60min video chat to discuss any and all aspects of non-monogamy. Available for individuals, couples, or triads. Sliding scale rates available upon request.

Have more connected, fulfilled, and adventurous relationships. I work with clients, who want to be ethical, honest, and open in their relationships. We will work together for a minimum of three months to make a profound change in your life.

1:1 coaching and on-going courses designed to remove the barriers that are stopping you from living your fully expressed life.

Talk with Annie about non-monogamy, kink, queerness, or anything on your mind!

Have questions and want to dive deeper into non-monogamy topics? Not sure if non-monogamy is for you? Seeking an outside perspective? Let’s chat! These sessions are a collaborative effort to provide you with the support you need, whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been practicing for years.

Let’s focus on you, your needs, fears, hopes, and desires and help you move forward in an empowered way toward the things you want more of in your life!

An inclusive, 2slgbtqia+ affirmative Psychotherapist, also certified in Sex Therapy and CNM Relationships, trained in EMDR and trauma informed. I have a deep passion for working with individuals on the impacts of trauma, identity exploration, self-worth, shame, sex-related topics and purpose; as well as with all intimate relationship types and lifestyles.