Tom Brand 02/09/2024 Tom Brand 02/09/2024

What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?

What sort of relationship is the best if you want your journey into polyamory is start off on the right foot?

Tom Brand 08/07/2024 Tom Brand 08/07/2024

What is Couple Privilege?

Opening up our relationships is not easy, and it’s not just newly opened couples who are at risk of bringing monogamous thinking into their dynamics.

Tom Brand 27/05/2024 Tom Brand 27/05/2024

What is Compersion?

If there is one word you will find yourself seeing a lot when you start your journey into polyamory, it will be the word "compersion". But what exactly is compersion, and why is it such a big part of people's discussions about ethical non-monogamy? Let’s take a closer look at it, its relationship with jealousy, and how it might be the key to healthier relationships.

Tom Brand 04/03/2024 Tom Brand 04/03/2024

What Do I Do if My Partner Asks for an Open Relationship?

Wanting to explore polyamory is not a sign your partner is unhappy with you, but it could be beneficial (even if you don’t try it)

Thomas H. Brand 19/02/2024 Thomas H. Brand 19/02/2024

What do you do When Your Partner Goes Through a Breakup?

Polyamorous breakups are difficult. Things are going to change, but you have to remember this is not about you.

Tom Brand 05/02/2024 Tom Brand 05/02/2024

How to Handle Breakups in Polyamory

Being polyamorous doesn’t mean breakups don’t hurt (or that polyamory doesn’t work).

Tom Brand 31/07/2023 Tom Brand 31/07/2023

Should You Date Someone New to Polyamory?

Everyone needs to start their polyamory journey somewhere, but who takes on responsibility for teaching them?

Tom Brand 10/04/2023 Tom Brand 10/04/2023

How to Deal With Jealousy in Polyamory

What’s the trick to dealing with jealousy in polyamory? How do we go about combatting that nasty feeling that holds us back from experiencing the joys of compersion?

Tom Brand 01/10/2022 Tom Brand 01/10/2022

Is Polyamory Cheating?

It's a question many of us find distasteful, so often do we hear it. But as much as we hate hearing it, it can't be denied it's an understandable mistake. So let’s take a look at it, shall we?

Tom Brand 20/07/2022 Tom Brand 20/07/2022

How To Make Polyamory Work for You When Things Get Hard

Ethical non-monogamy isn't a homogeneous blob. When you decide to move beyond monogamy, you don't simply take off one suit and put on another. And herein lies the problem. It's a fundamental misunderstanding of what ethical non-monogamy is.

So I want to talk about something I call The Polyamory Sweetshop.