Thomas H. Brand 19/02/2024 Thomas H. Brand 19/02/2024

What do you do When Your Partner Goes Through a Breakup?

Polyamorous breakups are difficult. Things are going to change, but you have to remember this is not about you.

Tom Brand 05/02/2024 Tom Brand 05/02/2024

How to Handle Breakups in Polyamory

Being polyamorous doesn’t mean breakups don’t hurt (or that polyamory doesn’t work).

Tom Brand 08/01/2024 Tom Brand 08/01/2024

Yes, You Can Feel Jealousy and Compersion at the Same Time

You don't need to wait until you've defeated jealousy before you can start enjoying ethical non-monogamy.

Tom Brand 25/09/2023 Tom Brand 25/09/2023

What is a One Penis Policy, And Why is it Bad?

Believe it or not, there is a difference between a One Penis Policy and a relationship dynamic with only one penis.

Tom Brand 28/08/2023 Tom Brand 28/08/2023

Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent

If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.

They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.

Tom Brand 24/04/2023 Tom Brand 24/04/2023

Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: Exploring and Developing your Identity

While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.

So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: Exploring and developing your identity.

Tom Brand 10/04/2023 Tom Brand 10/04/2023

How to Deal With Jealousy in Polyamory

What’s the trick to dealing with jealousy in polyamory? How do we go about combatting that nasty feeling that holds us back from experiencing the joys of compersion?

Tom Brand 27/03/2023 Tom Brand 27/03/2023

Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: Fulfilling Your Needs

While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.

So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: Fulfilling your and your partners’ needs.

Tom Brand 26/02/2023 Tom Brand 26/02/2023

Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: An Expression of Political Values

While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.

So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: An expression of political values.

Tom Brand 13/02/2023 Tom Brand 13/02/2023

Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: An Exploration of Identity

While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.

So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: The desire to explore your identity.

Tom Brand 02/01/2023 Tom Brand 02/01/2023

How to Find Compersion in Polyamory

Compersion in polyamory may be difficult, but it is never impossible. And, if you do the work and open yourself to the idea, then compersion may appear when you least expect it.

Tom Brand 01/11/2022 Tom Brand 01/11/2022

6 Reasons You Shouldn’t Try Polyamory

Like so many things in life, if you come into polyamory for the wrong reasons, your journey will be forever tainted. You can't build a house on a bad foundation, and a relationship is no different. You'll never find happiness in a relationship if you began it for the wrong reasons.

Tom Brand 01/10/2022 Tom Brand 01/10/2022

Is Polyamory Cheating?

It's a question many of us find distasteful, so often do we hear it. But as much as we hate hearing it, it can't be denied it's an understandable mistake. So let’s take a look at it, shall we?

Tom Brand 16/09/2022 Tom Brand 16/09/2022

Dealing with Jealousy in Polyamory

I’ll let you into a little secret. Jealousy doesn’t have to rule your life. While we might not be able to avoid it, there’s a trick you can learn to dismantle the power it has over you.